She Deserves Better

Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up

By: Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky

Narrated by: Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach

What if the goal of raising a Christian girl was about more than keeping her virginity intact? What if it was about raising a strong, independent young woman who knows who she is, uses her voice, and confidently steps into the life God has for her?

From the authors of The Great Sex Rescue comes this evidence-based book grounded on surveys of over 28,000 women to offer moms a fresh, freeing, and biblically grounded message of sexuality and self-worth for their daughters that is less about the don'ts and more about the dos.

This isn't your average parenting book: no pat answers or overly broad principles here. No cliche prescriptives or toxic teachings that your daughter will have to unpack and recover from as an adult, like so many of us have. Instead, you'll find data-driven insights about how to raise a woman who is resilient, knows her strength, and has the discernment skills needed to make good choices. By reframing (and sometimes replacing) common evangelical messages to teen girls, this book will equip you to raise a girl who can navigate the difficult waters of growing up while still clinging tight to the God who created her on purpose, for a purpose.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky (P)2023 eChristian

The church needs to hear this.

I didn’t grow up in a very complimentarian church, and yet I still was exposed to many of the toxic teachings regarding modesty, sex, emotions, and more that Sheila, Rebecca and Joanna discuss in this book. If you are a Christian mom looking for resources, read this one first. It is a great tool for discernment when it comes to how to set your daughters up for success.

If you are a parent or ministry leader of women or young girls, I plead with you to read this book

My formative years of the faith were during the boom of purity culture. I am grateful for biblically grounded parents who helped me to think critically and shielded me from some of its harmful teachings, but I was not unaffected by the messages women/girls were given. I’m so grateful to Sheila and the team for writing this book to help guide me as I raise my own daughter, thank you for paving the way for reconstruction of what it means to be a godly woman. As a data nerd myself, I couldn’t be more pleased to see biblically backed teachings, supported by data and harmful teachings warned against by data. I can’t think of a better way to judge the fruit than cold hard numbers. Thank you for delving into the experience of women. I am so grateful.

Wow. Read for the sake of my daughter but found so much healing for myself

Please read for the well being of your daughters.
I found so much healing myself while listening. Man..it hits home.

A must read for the evangelical church!

This was a hard book to listen to as it confronted the very tricky teachings that groomed me to enter into a toxic marriage that lasted over 2 decades. I'm so grateful for the work that was put into this so I can hopefully teach my daughters to watch out for red flags and to fully embrace who God created them to be.

Illuminating

A must read. I’m ordering a hard copy as well to re-read and share. This information will be beneficial in my parenting for my daughter and sons. This gives language to the low hum of frustration I have had as a woman within the institutional church structures.

The response we needed to “purity culture”

This book was so incredibly affirming and validating as someone who grew up in the height of “purity culture”. It explained so many of the “whys” of what I’ve experienced and things I’ve struggled with. It also really stretched me to think about how I move forward myself and in teaching my children.

Honest, relatable, eye-opening

I am not a mom, let alone a mom of teenagers, but as a millennial who grew up in a (wonderful) evangelical church, many of the messages the authors discussed were super relatable. Their insights will help me as I continue to navigate relationships I'm the future, and I'm going to pass this along to my church in hopes that the next generations of girls can get more balanced messages that point them to Jesus instead of religion.

A must read for parents, teachers, and pastors to girls.

This is an amazing book about how we can help Christian young women to have healthy lives and relationships.

Real info o healthy ways to talk about sex, relationships, and religion.

The authors give actual data to support their findings. They systematically talk about what has helped and hurt girls in the past and what we can do moving forward.

Thankful for this work

Highly recommend if you read purity culture books in your youth or young adulthood and don’t want to repeat the same messages for your kids.