Sabotage 3

Recognize Commitment Phobia and Experience a Healthy Relationship

By: Johanna Sparrow

Narrated by: Erica Hazelton

Length: 57 mins

Publisher's summary

You refuse to give up and let them go. Okay. Now, what’s next? For starters, you must change the way you think when you’re in love with a commitment-phobe because, unlike someone who’s looking for longevity in a relationship, the person you love is afraid of commitment. Therefore, they’ll use control and deception as manipulative tools to maintain distance in the relationship. Everything you do indicates you’re fully committed. That’s normally a wonderful thing, but for commitment-phobes, that’s a problem. In a strange way, you understand them and love their unpredictable ways. One moment, they’re cold; the next, it’s as if someone turned on the heater of love, and you’ve forgotten that you’re dealing with a commitment-phobe.

If you really want to make your relationship work, you’ll have to meet them halfway. If you press them too hard for a change in behavior, they’ll keep their distance. Learn to back off and stop worrying. The less you stress, the more they’ll stress over you. That’s the first step to handling your commitment-phobic lover. There are many other steps that ‘ll need to be taken, but the first step sets the tone and lets your partner know who’s in charge! Sabotage will teach you how to handle a commitment-phobe so you can win at love.

©2018 antoinette watkins (P)2019 antoinette watkins

Rambling and NO ACTUAL ADVICE

This book doesn't deliver on its promise. "Sabotage will teach you how to handle a commitment phobe so you can win at love." Laughable!! I can sum up her so-called "advice" in one word: RUN. I really thought this book would help me to understand and help my partner overcome his commitment issues, but I just listened to an hour of her vilifying a commitment phobe (who, by the way, is a person who is suffering from anxiety- but NOT according to her). She acts as if every commitment phobe is an evil and calculating person who knowingly and deliberately manipulates you instead of a person who is actually struggling with fear. She often claims throughout the book that they are "pretending" their feelings, as if they are literally incapable of feeling love at all. You can almost see her vivid and cartoonish description of a person who is maniacally laughing and rubbing his hands together while planning his next move to mislead you and break your heart without regret. This author must have really gotten burned by a commitment phobe, and wrote this book as revenge. There is literally no advice here except for you to give up on that person. A total bait and switch. I didn't understand the title "Sabotage" but it's very clear after listening to this book. She simply intends to sabotage every person who loves a commitment phobe. Johanna Sparrow, I'd love for you to explain yourself for this dud of an "advice book." It's a good thing it was so cheap or I'd be demanding a refund. Even so, I hate for you to be receiving any of my money for this drivel.