Reclaim Compassion

The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith

By: Lisa Qualls, Melissa Corkum

Narrated by: Lisa C. Qualls, Melissa Corkum

Shed your shame. Renew your hope. Rediscover the parent you know you can be.

Is your parenting journey turning out differently than you imagined? You had so much love to give, but now you feel ashamed and bewildered by your lack of compassion. You may be experiencing blocked care—a self-protective mechanism in your nervous system that makes it difficult to connect with your child and maintain compassion. When it happens, it’s like your heart seems to have left the relationship. But the good news is you are not a bad parent. You can heal from blocked care, and compassion can be rekindled in your heart.

Written by two adoptive parents who have overcome blocked care, Reclaim Compassion answers the questions, “How did this happen?” and “Will it ever get better?” You’ll recognize yourself in the honest stories from the authors and other parents and come to realize that you are not alone. Rooted in faith and backed by neuroscience, this practical and powerful guide offers a simple step-by-step process for reclaiming compassion for your child and yourself.

©2023 Lisa C. Qualls and Melissa Corkum (P)2024 Lisa C. Qualls and Melissa Corkum

A Gentle Step by Step Path to Get My Life Back

Lisa and Melissa understand what it is like to be in blocked care, And, they have designed a gentle step by step path to overcome it; a path that helps us reclaim compassion for ourselves and for our kiddos.
I"m a TBRI Practitioner, but blocked care robbed me of my capacity to parent in a way that promotes healing in my children. In this book, Melissa and Lisa teach us how to "TBRI" ourselves. It is wonderful to hear their compassionate voices, giving us an understanding of Blocked Care and then leading us to see and meet our own needs so that we can see and meet the needs of our children.
Not every adoptive or foster parent falls into blocked care, but for those of us who do, Reclaim Compassion is a way out of the dark and back into life.
TBRI (Trust-Based Relational Intervention - KPICD @ TCU)

Adoption Parenting - Expectation vs Reality

The personal experiences of Lisa and Melissa paired with their knowledge create trust between their voices and the listener. They had my attention early in the book when they said, "We know that the gap between your expectations and reality can cause feelings of shame, fear or resentment." This book gives the experiences of many adoptive parents a name - blocked care - and helps us to feel less alone while reclaiming compassion (or understanding) for ourselves and our children.

Life changing book!

This book has been absolutely everything I needed in this season. After years of struggling through a very difficult adoption I don’t feel alone and have been given practical steps on what I can do to improve our situation. So thankful for the opportunity to listen to this book.

Every Foster/Adoptive Parent needs this book!

I read Reclaim Compassion when it was released in hard copy format, but listening through it again is such a great and needed refresher. It feels like sitting and having a cup of coffee with mentors. The overwhelming need to release shame as an adoptive mom was so needed. Listen to this book if you struggle to like your kid even though you love them. Listen to this book if you feel like no one understands your situation…because Lisa and Melissa have walked through this journey and have so much wisdom to share!