Never Enough

Separating Self-Worth from Approval (Learn How to Bloom)

By: Deb Lang Psy.D.

Narrated by: Deb Lang Psy.D.

You deserve to be you—even if others disagree.

Do you dream of feeling confident in your own skin? Of no longer worrying what people think of you and whether they will approve? Instead, can your day turn on a dime with a look or a comment? Do you feel like what you do is never enough—that you’re never enough? And has all of that pressure left you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed? Maybe turning to food for comfort? If so, this book is for you.

Despite what you may think, I doubt you are weak, disorganized, codependent, a people pleaser, or that you lack motivation or willpower. Nor are you alone.

Over my many years working with women in therapy, it would be hard to count the number of bright, capable, successful women who have shared with me their fears of not being “good enough”, or how easily they are derailed by disapproval. And I have yet to meet a woman who feels her body is as it “should” be.

So, why is it that so many women feel they don’t measure up or find themselves constantly scrambling for approval or to be “good enough”? That is the question that prompted me to write this book.

Never Enough explores:

• the external factors, including our history as women, that keep us looking outside of ourselves for how we “should” be, while abandoning our true selves, our internal wisdom, and all that we were meant to be in this life
• how the brain, in an effort to protect and help us, often makes change difficult and knowledge insufficient in changing patterns of behavior
• the specific skills that have helped women turn this around

My gift, as a licensed psychologist, is helping women celebrate their unique beauty and truth and to step out of the no-win struggle to gain approval and be “enough.” I’d like to help you do that as well and to get you tapping into the treasure chest of strength, wisdom, and power that is waiting right there inside you! You may not believe it is there, and it is. It is just being overrun by a strong pull for approval or other outdated faulty assumptions about yourself.

Imagine how good it will feel to:

• be yourself and trust your yourself, even when facing disapproval
• deal with uncomfortable feelings like fear and guilt when speaking up
• feel confident and comfortable in your body
• celebrate who you are—your wisdom and beauty
• know what you need and be able to ask for it in an effective way
• finally get to the place where you can relax
• align with your larger purpose and greatest desires
• bloom into all you were meant to be!

I want you to have the chance to bloom and blossom in the magnificent way that is only possible for you.

My vision for you, and for all women, is a move from the outdated pull to find safety through approval to a place grounded on the firm foundation of your own wisdom—feeling safe to be yourself, to support and be supported by other women, as well as by larger sources of support like the spiritual.

This is your time to bloom! So, please don’t wait.

©2023 Deb Lang Psy.D. (P)2023 Deb Lang Psy.D.