Mating in Captivity

Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

By: Esther Perel

Narrated by: Esther Perel

When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples.

Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them.

Determined to reconcile the erotic and the domestic, Perel explains why democracy is a passion killer in the bedroom; argues for playfulness, distance and uncertainty; and shows what it takes to bring lust home.

Smart, sexy and explosively original, Mating in Captivity is the monogamist's essential bedtime listen.

©2006 Esther Perel (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers

Critic reviews

" Mating in Captivity...articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time." ( The Evening Standard)

Best book on sex in long term relationships ❗

wow, amazing, through and through !
i totally fell in love with Esther Perel.
it was such a pleasure to hear such a comprehensive view around relationships and sexuality.

just amazing.

Engaging, essential listening

Just a great resource for anyone. Whoever you are you will likely have a few long term relationships and this book is so full of insight, interesting and engaging questions and a imaginative view of love, sex and everything in between. Highly recommended.

A different way of looking at relationships.

She empowers everyone in the relationship. Gone are the days when you are dependant on your spouse for your happiness. Now you have to own your happiness and not be apologetic about it.

Thought Provoking

Wonderfully put together in a way that gently stretches your assumptions about marriage and speaks to the intrinsic dilemmas of relational life without the hasty need for plastering a solution. A must read.

loved it. Found this book Inspiring.

loved listening to the author reading her book. Greate angles on sex for everyone who wants more.

A bird’s eye view of how we love in relationships

I appreciated the opportunity to visit intimacy of how various couples navigate their love and commitments, the roots of why we may transgress or fall out of love and intimacy and honest approaches to keeping the love we find. Thank you Esther Perel

A game changer

Truly opened my eyes to a whole bunch of nuances around sex and erotic communication.
This book changed what I expect from my partner and gave me tools with which to ask for what I want.
Shared with my wife and she loved it too.

Insightful and a life changing must read book

We spent many wonderful hours as a couple listening to this audio book. It opens the brains to listen through its scientific approach to erotic intelligence through looking at marriage and relationship with different eyes. The authors research, experience and ability to explain made both of us go through many aha moments. We truly feel this book has added enormous value to our relationship and we will revisit it again and again. It is a must read.

There is NO school for relationships, intimacy and eroticism. This book is at its core giving you the keys to unlock an incredibly important knowledge about these worlds.

True classic and masterpiece 👏👏👏

Loved every moment of it. Very relevant especially if you’ve been in a long term committed relationship.

illuminating, clear, bold,

An inspired and counterintuitive insight in present day's seemingly unsolvable contradictions on sex, love and relations