88 Tell-Tale Signs of Narcissistic Mothers and Toxic Mothers: Overt and Covert Narcissistic Abuse

Transcend Mediocrity, Book 64

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: D. Gaunt

If you're reading this, chances are you may have a toxic or narcissistic mother in your life. She may be your mother, your mother-in-law, or your grandmother. You often feel as though something is wrong when you are in this person's presence, though you can't quite put your finger on it. She tends to make you feel tired and emotionally drained when you are around her.

Narcissistic and toxic mothers are often injured in their childhoods by their own stunted emotional development. In order to fully develop into a healthy adult, we need a very nurturing and emotionally validating environment. Toxic and narcissistic mothers often grow up without that nurturing. They have jumped through hoops and tailored themselves to others around them. They have been invited to be a part of mind games, lies, and manipulation. They may have been told repeatedly that they weren't wanted.

Narcissistic and toxic mothers can be very damaging to those around them. They have been often violated and hurt by others themselves. They see the world around them as being cruel, and so they take a defensive stance against others. They bore easily and struggle to keep their own emotions in check. For this reason they seem to enjoy being in a constant state of drama in the relationships around them.

They are often experiencing great sadness, shame, guilt, and depression in their inner cores due to a lack of healing the things that happened to them. They need others to save them from themselves. They need others to provide a constant state of interaction with them in order to distract them from the pain they are feeling inside. They have to project their pain onto others to share it because they cannot find healthy and meaningful ways in which to deal with it themselves.

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

Just be aware...

In case you don't realize, not EVERY one of the listed traits will be shown by EVERY toxic and narcissistic mom. For instance, anything mentioning hitting her children, kicking the dog, etc., are not my mother who is most definitely narcissistic but not violently towards humans and animals. She screams and slams doors when she boils over, but even that's rare enough to mention here. Otherwise, this is literally a listicle book that serves a purpose and is not fleshed out into chapters. Also, as with all of these books on narcissistic parents, it's triggering. But that's why I listened -- hoping to tease out some more memories I repressed to help me heal and get past the gaslighting and the image I have of her in my head that makes me feel guilty.

A Good Rudimentary Introduction to Narcissistic Personality

This is a very brief introduction to narcissistic behavior and the many forms with which it can manifest. A bit difficult in the audio format as the examples are so brief and whiz by too quickly in most cases to be effectively absorbed by the listener. Would be very helpful to have an ebook companion in this instance! ☺️

identifying them is easier than exposing them.

It's exactly as the title says it is. and nothing more. Once you identify these characteristics you will need to download a bunch more books to have options for your own families situation and issues. it's probably too late for mine to be healed as a family together. But it can be helpful as a guide for a daughter of a narcissistic mother and can help steer away from repeating the same within their own relationships in life.

Knowledge that will empower.

Reading this book has provided me with a great deal of information. Helped to established with greater certainty that the knot in my stomach, distrust and unpleasant feelings (negative intuition) had an explanation. Until recently I was a pawn in my in laws mind games. Now, I have been identified as a threat. Tools to set needed boundaries mentioned in this book will provide you with a good start.

Helpful

This book gave me a lot of insight and was very helpful!
I highly
recommend it

Just what it says

Corrupted audio in number 61

Also suggest "Disarming the Narcissist" once you recognize the narcissist in your life.

it clearly states Headline is OPTIONAL....

Could have used better examples, they seemed to repeat. I would have used the word self-absorbed, selfish more.

88 examples of My mother’s actions.

🙏 So grateful for this book. Finally realizing It’s not me. I can now begin to heal.