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A must-read for anyone who will die someday!

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Reviewed: 09-19-22

I think this book should be required reading for anyone going into the medical field or working in health care in any capacity. Along with "Tuesdays with Morrie", "Being Mortal" tops my shortlist of must-reads for EVERYONE. The things Dr. Gawande addresses in this book can be a catalyst for critical conversations we should be having with our healthcare providers, our families, and ourselves. While unpleasant, uncomfortable, and downright frightening to contemplate, DEATH is the one absolute certainty in life. WE. WILL. DIE. Our bodies will not last forever. Having worked as a social worker in both a nursing home and in hospice, I have learned that there are many things worse than death. Specifically, the unpredictable and ambiguous space between being alive and being dead. There is much about that time that we will have little to no control over. But there are a number of things we CAN control, which is vital during a phase of life defined by powerlessness. Not only can having these conversations spare yourself suffering; they can help mitigate the trauma your death may inflict upon your loved ones. If not for yourself, have this conversation for THEM. Medicine can only do so much. That is reality. Doctors need to be able to acknowledge this and not see it as a failure. They need to prepare their patients (and themselves) for that inevitably. Modern medicine needs to recognize that it often does more harm than good when dealing with terminal conditions. It is excruciating to watch someone digging in their heels while on the brink of inevitable death. There can be an incredible peace and sacredness inherent in a natural/accepted death. That peace was something I did not expect to experience when I began working in hospice, but it was inexplicably beautiful to bear witness to.

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The content of this book is by no means easy to listen to. It brings your own mortality to the forefront of your mind. It prods at wounds from unresolved grief. It is sad. It is scary. But it is so important. We prepare for natural disasters. We take all kinds of safety precautions for things that MIGHT happen. Yet we fail to inform or prepare ourselves for the one thing that is CERTAIN to happen. If this book seems overwhelming, Dr. Gawande wrote an article in the New Yorker entitled something like "when medicine isn't enough". It gives a "Reader's Digest" version of "Being Mortal". I was actually directed to the article by a father whose 27-ish-y-o son was dying from inoperable brain cancer and was on hospice. The father said it helped him. This conversation is too important not to have. Being Mortal can help you have that conversation. It can help you begin to take ownership of your life all the way through the end. It can help you gift your loved ones with peace of mind when the time comes to make hard decisions.

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Short, sweet, to the point

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Reviewed: 04-16-22

Succinct, useful, practical info that could be beneficial to any type of writing. Definitely recognized some areas where I could improve my own. Included pdf is a great resource as well!!

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Wonderful story! Exquisite narration!

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Reviewed: 03-08-20

I'd never read this before. (I decided to read it after listening to The Cider House Rules.) I found it so suspenseful, wondering how things would evolve (and at one point thinking "Did I miss that this was a horror story?! A goblin?! Lol!). Thandie Newton's voice was like silk. The delicacy of her voice perfectly embodied and animated the slightness of Jane's frame and her gentle (but resolute) spirit. I loved all her vocal characterizations. I highly recommend! It is the literary version of a chick flick with religious/spiritual messages, but not preachy (though I was nervous more than once about what the overall message was going to be).

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Good narration is all that made it tolerable.

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Reviewed: 10-18-19

THE GOOD: The narration was fantastic!! This was my first time hearing a book narrated by David Pittu, and I thought he did a great job!! Some of his female voices were only so-so, but he gave every character their own voice, which brought so much life to an otherwise dreary story. I am fairly certain I would never have finished reading this book in print. At times the story was a real page-turner. If you ever wondered how/why people use drugs, or if you are the type of person to look down your nose at addicts, this book vividly illustrates the escape that self-medication provides and the subsequent vicious cycle that ensnares you.

THE BAD: I love a good story, and I love people's stories. I am a big fan of Tolstoy and Tolkien partly BECAUSE of their lengthy descriptions of scenery, characters, or even seemingly random side stories. However, many of the numerous accounts in this book were superfluous. For me, they didn't add to depth of the story, but only fed into my increasing disdain for the protagonist (and some of the company he kept). There were elements of mystery, but they were so spaced out that they lost momentum. She took such a long time getting to the point several times, that by the end I was listening to it at 1.20 speed just to get it over with. Then...after all this verbose, repetitive storytelling, the book just ends...with a monologue.

THE UGLY: I do not recommend this book if you are deep in the throes of depression or substance abuse or love someone who is an addict, as there are some serious triggers that consume about 28 of the book's 32 hours. With very few genuinely happy moments (zero laugh out loud moments that I can recall), the book feels like a never-ending rainy day of hopelessness; substance abuse/addiction is a central theme throughout the whole book. When I was 2/3 of the way through (22 hours), this was my assessment: "Main character is a troubled, overly-thinking, agoraphobic, barely-functioning, lying addict living in NYC, who will do any drug in front of him, and who continues to make poor choices that further alienate him from the people who truly love him. I keep waiting for him to change, but it just continues to be more of the same. Does this book ever get 'undepressing'? Does Theo ever get his s*** together? For me, I'm extremely triggered by all the substance abuse going on (especially by the children) and addiction and it's making for an excruciating read. Will there be redemption at all or should I just quit while I'm behind?" The author paints a fairly realistic picture of substance abuse, how easily a kid can get drawn into it, and what the life of a semi-functioning addict looks like...which is probably why it was so painful to read...because watching someone you love destroy themselves is painful. The lengthy description of various episodes of drug use were excessive...once or twice would have been enough. Part of surviving a relationship with an addict often involves separating yourself from them...not having a front row seat to their years of self-destruction.

THE SILVER LINING: There are about 5 sentences during the last 10 mins or so that I found hopeful. But they are sufficient enough to stand on their own; I did not need to be put through 32 hours of pure hell to be able to appreciate them. They were not sufficient balm for the rawness I felt after having vicariously lived through so much misery.

THE BOTTOM LINE: I would not recommend this book and I plan to return it.

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amazing book from start to finish!

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Reviewed: 07-19-18

loved every second of this book! kept my attention the whole time! #definitelyrecommend #getthisnow #nostalgia

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Wow! So painful, so poignant, so true!

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Reviewed: 03-19-18

It was like scenes from my own life, verbatim conversations with my own teenage son. I could FEEL so much as David took us on his journey... my journey.

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Wow!

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Reviewed: 10-11-17

What a mind Tolstoy had! A brilliant blend of history, fiction, and philosophy! It's very deep stuff. But so thought-provoking and with a timeless relevance. I love his mind! And the narration was fantastic!

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So many human experiences in one book!

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Reviewed: 09-04-17

Provocative story with exceptional narration. Maggie Gyllenhaal did an excellent job. This book leaves me wanting to delve deeper into Tolstoy.

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Meh...

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Reviewed: 02-26-16

Very long and winding and still left many questions unanswered. Seemed like his solution was just to kill everyone off rather than have any conflicts resolved. While I was aware the book was "nothing like the musical," I didn't realize that was true to the extent that the only similarities were in the lead characters names. As I listened, I just kept wondering how they got the storyline for the musical from this VERY different story.

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Beautifully written and beautifully read!

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Reviewed: 10-23-15

While familiar with the fate of Anne Frank, I'd never read the diary. I'm not sure what I expected, war stories perhaps, but this book blew away my preconceptions. So many emotions, experiences, and historical contexts all captured and expressed so eloquently and relatably. The only thing could enhance Anne's writing was Selma Blair's delivery. Fantastic narration! SB's articulation, speed, and tone were so spot on for a teenage girl...wise and mature beyond her years and feeling misunderstood by all around her. Teen angst and coming of age amid the backdrop of horrific Nazi-occupied Holland, Anne's writing is timeless, soulful, and profound. I loved this book and wish I had explored it years ago!

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