the psychology behind waiting to respond

"Aren't you going to text him back?"

"No, I'm going to wait three hours so I don't look desperate"

Waiting to text back, double texting, leaving people on read... in today's episode Ari and I talk about texting etiquette. Is it childish and annoying, or does it serve a purpose... and why is waiting to respond so goddamn effective??

If you want to review some of the studies we reference in our podcast, they're linked here below:

Camerini, Anne-Linda, et al. “Exploring the Emotional Experience During Instant Messaging Among Young Adults: An Experimental Study Incorporating Physiological Correlates of Arousal.” Frontiers in Psychology, vol. 13, Apr. 2022, p. 840845, https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.840845.

Döring, Nicola, and Sandra Pöschl. Nonverbal Cues in Mobile Phone Text Messages: The Effects of Chronemics and Proxemics.

Halley, Catherine. “Chronemics and the Nonverbal Language of Time.” JSTOR Daily, 13 Apr. 2022, https://daily.jstor.org/chronemics-and-the-nonverbal-language-of-time/.

Holtzman, Susan, et al. “Long-Distance Texting: Text Messaging Is Linked with Higher Relationship Satisfaction in Long-Distance Relationships.” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, vol. 38, no. 12, 2021, pp. 3543–65, https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075211043296.

“It’s Complicated: Our Relationship with Texting.” Https://Www.Apa.Org, https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2018/08/relationship-texting. Accessed 27 Jan. 2024.

Tan, Kenneth, et al. “Seeking and Ensuring Interdependence: Desiring Commitment and the Strategic Initiation and Maintenance of Close Relationships.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, vol. 46, no. 1, 2020, pp. 36–50, https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167219841633.

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