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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

• The language often used by Pure Desire is for married couples, but what about the seriously dating couples who are moving toward marriage? What counsel do you have for young Christian adults in committed dating relationships who are close to engagement/marriage when porn addiction comes into the light?
• When a husband asks his wife to perform sexual acts he’s seen in porn, is this considered sexual abuse, even though it’s in a marriage? What effects would this betrayal have on a woman who was sexually abused in a similar way as a child?
• We are very close to a couple who are in the midst of betrayal and healing. The husband has been emotionally attached to another woman, to the point you could call it an emotional affair. They are working toward healing. I was wondering if you have any recommendations for couples dealing with emotional affairs and healing from this type of betrayal?
  
  

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• How do I tread the line between being a trigger for my husband and still being sexy and flirty? I used to love wearing lingerie type nightgowns and throughout the day send messages to my husband about plans for our sexy time. But now I’m scared that if I send him a text like this, it will make him have sexual thoughts and he will have urges to act out.
• When people act out sexually, what are they looking for? (Bondage, role playing… how exotic are we talking?) What does the average couple feel comfortable with sexually?
• My body desires sex each month after my period. The rest of the month is a huge struggle with mental roadblocks, no physical desire, not feeling safe to engage, or a wall over my heart. I have been struggling to figure out if it’s hormones, betrayal trauma related, or a mixture of both. Why does this happen and how can I move toward having more sexual freedom?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• I'm the addict spouse, and I've had a porn addiction since I was 11 years old (I'm 26 now). I've struggled with sexual addiction well before my wife and I met. I'm in recovery and making progress, but it’s still a very present struggle. How do I lead in my marriage when I feel like I'm not good enough in this area? Or perhaps from my wife's perspective, how can a wife follow a husband who struggles with addiction when it feels like she's the one who's more mature?
• What are some good indications of faked recovery for the betrayer? What are some examples of white knuckling? Are acting in behaviors abusive too? What are some examples of acting in behaviors?
• My husband failed his polygraph and insists he isn't hiding anything. Now what?

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