Parents, how do your teens view practice? Is it a chore, an obligation, or a chance to improve? In this episode, we break down why practice isn’t just about showing up—it’s about showing up with the right mindset and appropriate rules. Using some humorous insights from the unlikely combo of Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso, we explore how values and rules shape your teen’s approach to practice and how you, as a parent, play a critical role in that process.

This episode, #88 is the last in the Values Need Rules and Rules Need Values Series. Episode 84 sets the table and 85 (Homework), 86 (Teen Parties), & 87 (Social Media) get very specific. Enjoy!

The Juicy Timestamps!

00:00 The "Practice Debate" with Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso :)

04:10 Values and Rules in the context of "Practice"

09:19 The Importance of Practice: Perspectives and Insights

14:04 Deep Practice: Quality Over Quantity

18:26 Modeling Practice: The Parent's Role

The Keepers!

• Values and rules are interconnected in the context of practice.
• Parents need to communicate the value of practice without being preachy.
• Deep practice is more effective than long, distracted practice sessions.
• Investing time in practice yields long-term benefits, akin to sweat equity.
• Celebrating small wins in practice can enhance motivation for teens.
• The perspective of practice as a privilege can change your performer's attitude.
• Modeling good work habits as parents influences teen's views on practice.
• Everything we do is training for something, shaping our future performance.

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Credit to David Stauffer for the Allen Iverson/Ted Lasso Mashup.

PARENTS: Are your teen’s online habits helping or hurting them? Discover how to coach them toward smart social media use! In this episode (#3 of our 4 episode series of our Values & Rules series), we unpack the real life challenges you as a parent face with your teen’s online presence.

Teens live in a digital world—are they equipped to navigate it wisely? We break down how to help your teen use social media in a way that reflects their values, strengthens their confidence, and avoids common pitfalls. With real-life scenarios, helpful conversation starters, and practical tips, we’ll help you turn social media challenges into coaching moments that build trust and responsibility! Let’s dive in!

The "Get to My Fave Stuff" Timestamps

00:00 Navigating Social Media with Kids

02:49 Values & Rules in Parenting Like a Coach

05:42 Communication Filters

07:56 Real-Life Scenarios/Social Media Consequences

10:47 Building a Teen's Confidence through Social Media

13:57 Thought Provoking Questions for You

15:38 Experimenting with a Social Media Detox

The JUICE!:

• Social media is here (probably to stay).
• Parents should be prepared for a range of emotions regarding their children's social media use.
• Establishing values and rules around social media is crucial.
• Conversation starters can help parents engage with their teens about social media.
• Real-life scenarios can illustrate the consequences of good and bad social media use.
• Building confidence through authentic social media engagement is important.
• Introspection about family values can guide social media rules.
• Asking teens about their social media boundaries empowers them.
• Reflecting on positive social media experiences can strengthen family bonds.
• Experimenting with a social media detox is worth a shot!

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Worried about teen parties? Master the art of coaching your teen to confidence in pressure-packed social situations. So parents, are you ready to party? Well, are you ready to at least talk about teen parties? Are you ready and equipped to talk about parties with that teen(s) that lives in your house?!!

In today's show we discuss the challenges parents face when navigating the topic of teen parties. Let's face it, this is not easy! But, it is so important that we have open conversations about values and rules with our teens so they are prepared to handle all that comes with attending a teen party that may present comprising, awkward, and even dangerous situations. It is critical that we help empower them to make confident decisions in difficult, peer pressure-fueled social scenarios.

Of course, we have a story and the ever important practical strategies for your as a high performing parent to implement with your teens. Let's go!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Navigating Teen Parties: A Parent's Dilemma

10:11 Empowering Teens: Values and Rules in Party Situations

19:53 Building Confidence: Strategies for Handling Peer Pressure

The Good Stuff:

-Having clarity about teen party rules is crucial.

-It's normal and ok to feel uncomfortable discussing party situations with your teen.

-Values should guide the creation of party rules for teens.

-Using jingles to summarize rules can help reinforce important messages for teens.

-Peer pressure at teen parties is a real thing, prep your teen well!

-Role-playing scenarios can help teens prepare for peer pressure situations.

-Empowering teens to make their own rules can lead to alignment with family values.

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Parents: What are the homework rules for your teens? Interested in a different and effective approach to creating homework rules, backed by your values? In this episode (which is a spin-off of Episode 84 on Values & Rules), Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall and Steve Galley dive head first into the importance of having a structured game plan for homework. You may even learn a new jingle, motto, or cheesy saying that may help you create an extremely valuable conversation around homework rules with your homework hating teen!

The Sticky Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of a Game Plan for Homework

02:41 Creating a Positive Homework Environment

05:33 Fun Rules and Jingles for Homework

08:39 The Role of Academics in Athletic Success

11:13 Questions for High Performing Parents to Consider

14:17 Future Self and Academic Advice

Put These in Your Back Pocket!

-Most teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Most parents of teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Intrinsic motivation with homework is crucial but often unrealistic for many students.

-Rules for homework can and should be fun and engaging, not confrontational.

-Academic performance can significantly impact athletic opportunities.

-GPA is often "the silent recruiter" for scholarships.

-Homework can be weaponized as a beneficial tool for discipline and growth.

-Future self advice can provide valuable insights for students.

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Parents: Ever wonder why your teen pushes back on "the rules?" Shifting from rules to values can transform everything! And shifting from "parenting" to "coaching" changes your relationship with your teen! In this episode, Nate and Steve explore the importance of establishing rules that are rooted in values, how these rules can create a sense of freedom for teens (and parental units!!), and practical steps for teens and parents to identify their values. The commuter-friendly conversation also highlights two of Nate and Steve's personal rules and the values that underpin them, providing and example and insight for parents of teen athletes and performers.

Helpful Timestamps!

00:00 Why "stop parenting & start coaching" Your Teens?

02:39 The Importance of Rules and Values

03:06 Understanding Boundaries and Freedom

05:47 The Chicken and Egg of Values and Rules

06:54 Practical Steps for Creating Rules by Identifying Your Values

10:25 Nate & Steve share 2 Personal Rules & their Underlying Values

The Gold Nuggets

-Transitioning from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships.

-Understanding the interconnection between rules and values is crucial.

-Rules should be tied to values that matter to the family.

-Establishing boundaries provides freedom for teens.

-Clarity about values is essential for effective coaching of your teens.

-Personal rules reflect deeper values and commitments.

-Engaging in discussions about values can strengthen family bonds.

-Rules without values can feel hollow and restrictive.

-Practical steps can help families identify their values.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

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A Half Point Gift? Parents: Give this Some Thought! Refuel your teen’s motivation with a powerful mid-season celebration! Let's face it, despite commitment and effort, sometimes our teens (and us too) are running on fumes! Parental Units--what can we do? Well, what about a "half point gift?" What in the wide world of parenting is that, you say? You're going to find out as we highlight strategy #24 from the book "SAY IT NOW: 33 creative ways to say I LOVE YOU to the most important people in your life" by author and our friend, Sherry Belul. (link to her book is below after the Takeaways!).

This half point gift strategy is brilliant and can refuel your teen athletes and performers and they grind their way through school and performances. We're glad you're here and hope you enjoy this pit stop. Fuel up moms and dads!

The Nifty Timestamps

00:00 Running on Fumes: The Journey of Energy and Motivation

02:59 Refueling During the Journey: Celebrating Success Along the Way

05:03 The Importance of Mid-Point Celebrations

08:00 Creating Meaningful Half-Point Gifts

10:51 Practical Applications: Celebrating Growth and Progress

13:32 Rituals of Celebration: Building Joy in the Journey

The Terrific Takeaways

-Celebrating success should happen throughout the journey, not just at the end.

-Refueling during long processes is crucial to avoid burnout.

-Halfway celebrations can help maintain motivation and energy.

-Acknowledging milestones prevents feelings of discouragement and stress.

-Celebrations can be simple and meaningful, and don't have to be material.

-Creating rituals of acknowledgment can enhance family dynamics.

-Celebrating halfway points can lead to more finished projects .

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are you feeding your teens enough P.I.E.? Learn how praise, inspiration & encouragement fuel success! Let's dive into the importance of delivering timely and authentic recognition, fostering a culture of appreciation (thank you to Shannon Waller of the Team Success podcast!), and finding ways to praise even in challenging situations. And then let's wrap it up with some practical application gems from one of the G.O.A.T.s of all time: Mr. Dale Carnegie himself!

The All Important Timestamps!

00:00 The P.I.E. Shop Concept

02:33 The Importance of PIE: Praise, Inspire, Encourage

05:24 Delivering Authentic Recognition

08:05 Finding Praise in Challenging Situations

10:50 Fostering a Culture of Appreciation

13:35 Dale Carnegie's Principles of Praise

16:23 Inspiring Potential in Teens

18:27 Encouraging Genuine Communication

The Juicy Takeaways

• Everybody needs a slice of pie.
• Deliver authentic, timely recognition for maximum impact.
• Foster a culture of appreciation among team members.
• Specificity wins when it comes to delivery and praise.
• Make the fault seem easy to correct.
• Get them to talk about themselves.
• You will usually find what you're looking for.
• Help them to see their potential.
• Go open up your own pie shop. You got this!

Here's the EP 10 link we promised: https://youtu.be/1zu09CJXdWA

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the usual other places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve

Parents: do you have what it takes?! Apply Steve’s 5 Ironman lessons to master the hardest job: parenting teens! In today's conversation you'll enjoy exploring the challenges of parenting as Steve and Nate draw parallels to the mental toughness required in endurance sports like the 140.6 mile Ironman triathlon. They discuss the importance of self-talk, synergy and harmony with others, building a support team, and...finishing! You may never swim 2.4 miles, hop on bike and ride 112 miles, and then hop off and grind out a 26.2 mile marathon, but guess what? As a parent of a teen athlete or performer, you're taking on something much, much tougher than Ironman! AND moms and dads...YOU DO HAVE WHAT IT TAKES! Let's go dive in the water and have some fun with this!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Do You Have What It Takes?

01:43 The Ironman Journey: A Test of Mental Toughness

09:23 Lessons from Ironman: Parenting Parallels

19:08 Building a Supportive Team

22:57 The Power of Finishing Strong

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve