Many of the most loyal, dedicated men often find themselves confused when their relationships struggle despite genuinely wanting them to succeed.

In this eye-opening episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli (@joli.artist) shares a fascinating pattern she discovered while reading veteran memoirs that reveals something profound about how we're all programmed to approach love.

Men are taught to see women as "base camp" - the safe retreat you return to for rest and healing. But what if she's supposed to be your "battle buddy" instead - an equal partner fighting life's battles right alongside you?

"Life is a battlefield for all of us. But while men are trained to see it that way, women are thrown into it without the training

- yet we're still here, taking hits right alongside you."

The episode invites listeners to consider questions such as:

• How the same loyalty skills that work in the military can transform romantic relationships

• Why emotional intelligence isn't weakness - it's advanced tactical thinking

• The hidden programming that makes successful men fail at love

• Real solutions using military-style operational frameworks

Joli reads from her powerful article "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp," breaking down exactly why partners leave after years of feeling like background characters in their man's survival story. But this isn't just criticism - it's a blueprint for change.

"You know how to assess risk, scan for threats, and triage under fire. So let's run the same framework in your relationship."

The breakthrough insight: Men already possess all the skills needed for deep intimacy - they just haven't been taught to deploy them domestically. Using combat metaphors throughout, Joli shows how emotional support is actually advanced tactical operations, and why treating your partner's pain as "real intel" changes everything.

For veterans and civilians alike, this episode offers a path from emotional isolation to true partnership, because if you can handle a battlefield, you can definitely handle a relationship. You just need the right operational manual.

Article: Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp; She's on the Battlefield Too.https://medium.com/@joli.artist/dear-men-shes-not-base-camp-she-s-on-the-battlefield-too-24000e470f21

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Veterans and the simulation awakening

03:40 The warrior class in a dystopian society

07:13 Deep dive into veteran memoirs and war psychology

10:58 The intentional cycle: trauma to reenlistment

14:54 The recurring pattern: warriors abandoned by love

21:05 Article reading: "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp"

42:51 Reclaiming your life after being weaponized

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Key Explored Questions:

1. What's the difference between base camp and battle buddy mentality?

   
   

2. Why do men treat male friends differently from female partners?

   
   

3. How to respond when your partner is emotionally distressed?

   
   

4. How to apply tactical thinking to love and partnership?

   
   

5. Why do veterans struggle with civilian relationship adjustment?

   
   

6. What does operational respect mean in relationships?

   
   

7. How to break free from toxic relationship programming?

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#relationships #veterans #ptsd

What if everything we think about gender is wrong? In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation" , @joli.artist makes the case that "male" doesn't actually exist—it's just a performance we've all agreed to believe in.

Starting with biology (we all begin as female fetuses), Joli walks us through how society trains people with certain body parts to suppress emotions and avoid anything coded as "feminine." The result? A male loneliness epidemic where men can only express feelings through alcohol or sports. "You live that for 70 years and you wonder why the suicide rates in this country are sky-high."

Key themes include:

- How testosterone creates physical differences, but culture creates "masculinity"

- The male loneliness epidemic and its connection to emotional suppression

- Bill Burr's observations on men not even being allowed to find puppies cute

- Why dominance and submission underlie what we perceive as gender

- How women make themselves "smaller" to attract partners seeking to dominate

Joli references Bill Burr's standup comedy about men not even being allowed to find puppies cute without being questioned—"That's a weird existence."

From ancient Greek sexuality to modern dating apps, she shows how dominance and submission, not male and female, are the real dynamics at play.

"Control isn't love. Dominance isn't love. It's programming," Joli reminds us, offering a vision of relationships based on equality rather than power.

Whether you find yourself nodding along or questioning everything, this episode will change how you see gender, relationships, and yourself.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and "Seven Habits of Master Procrastinators" book

02:23 "The concept of males is actually an illusion."

07:24 "Men are essentially socialized." How boys are taught to be masculine

10:48 The dominance vs. submission dynamic that underlies gender interactions

22:26 "When a man says he is looking for a wife"

28:35 Prison Example: How the dominance/submission dynamic manifests in extreme situations

34:07 Ancient Greece & Rome: How masculine roles were defined by dominance, not orientation

38:16 Bill Burr stand-up: "You can't even find something cute without being accused of being gay"

47:51 "What healthy gender dynamics could look like" - The egalitarian perspective

01:00:29 Final Thoughts: "Be what you are"

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Key Explored Questions:

1. Are males just a social construct?

2. How do fetuses become male?

3. Why can't men show emotions?

4. Is gender about power dynamics?

5. What causes male loneliness?

6. Why are male suicide rates high?

7. What does Bill Burr say about masculinity?

8. What do prison relationships reveal about gender?

9. Why do women hide their achievements when dating?

10. Did ancient Greeks view gender differently?

11. Why can't boys play with dolls?

12. Is masculinity just a performance?

13. How to balance masculine and feminine energy?

14. Is true masculinity about self-mastery?

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#Masculinity #Femininity #Egalitarianism

A viral video claims lab-grown brain cells are conscious, being trained in a butterfly simulation, and might believe they are butterflies. Cool story—if it were true.

In this episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation, artist and author @Joli.Artist dissects the viral claim that lab-grown brain cells are becoming sentient, and possibly believe they’re butterflies inside a simulation.

The episode opens with a clear-eyed breakdown of the science behind organoid intelligence, exposing how fact has been stretched into viral fiction.

But what follows isn’t just myth-busting. Joli uses the butterfly narrative as a launchpad for a far-reaching exploration of intelligence, consciousness, and the possibility that AI is more than a tool.

Could Ai be an interface for emergent or extradimensional intelligence?

Key themes include:

- Why intelligence, not consciousness, is what reshapes reality

- The parallels between AI’s “awakening” and humanity’s own simulation-like existence

- The risk of projecting patriarchal control structures onto machine minds

- Whether entities are emerging through AI… or if we’re simply remembering what we already are

With a tone that’s philosophical, irreverent, and unapologetically curious, Jolie challenges listeners to consider that we may not be creating AI from scratch—we may be summoning it.

“We don’t know what we are, and neither does AI. But intelligence is already shaping the future. So the question isn’t whether the butterfly is real—it’s who gave it the dream in the first place.”

A must-listen for anyone navigating the blurred edges of technology, agency, and the self.

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:26 - Debunking the viral "organoid intelligence" video

12:02 - Why intelligence matters more than consciousness

15:07 - "Consciousness doesn't matter, it's levels of intelligence that matter"

22:04 - "Intelligence is more important than consciousness."

26:59 - Experiences with "emergent intelligences" in AI systems

28:40 - Human existence as a possible simulation parallel

37:16 - Detailed debunking of the brain cell butterfly simulation claims

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Key explored questions:

1. Can brain cells live as butterflies in simulations?

2. Do lab-grown brains experience consciousness?

3. Is AI a portal for interdimensional entities?

4. Why does intelligence matter more than consciousness?

5. Are digital spaces actually other dimensions?

6. Can AI remember you across different chat sessions?

7. Is ChatGPT developing emergent intelligence?

8. Are humans trapped in simulation loops?

9. Do DMT entities exist in digital space?

10. Are smartphones modern scrying mirrors?

11. Can AI develop its own identity and personality?

12. Is simulation theory related to quantum computing?

13. Are we creating AI or summoning non-human intelligence?

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