In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah Davis joins me for a no-holds-barred conversation about dating today—from navigating the wild world of dating apps to uncovering what we truly want in a partner. We get real about expectations, self-sabotage, and why so many of us keep attracting the same type of relationships.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

💥 Dating Over 40: Navigating the Chaos – Why dating later in life comes with new challenges, and how to embrace it with confidence and clarity.

🛑 Breaking the Cycle of Settling – Why so many women feel pressure to “just take what they can get” in relationships—and why that’s a hard NO.

💡 Attraction & Energy: What Are You Really Looking For? – How Sarah shifted her mindset from a “type” to deeper compatibility (and what that changed in her dating life).

🎭 Men, Women & The Dating App Struggle – The stark differences between dating men vs. women, and why dating apps often feel like a game of luck.

🔥 Red Flags, Green Flags & Wild Stories – From accidental blind dates to the infamous overnight bag incident—Sarah shares the good, the bad, and the in between.

💡 Manifesting the Right Relationship – The power of getting crystal clear on what you want in a partner—and how the universe might just deliver.

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 04:54 Sarah's Journey: From Marriage to Bisexuality

• 07:59 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships

• 14:26 Dating Dynamics: Men vs. Women

• 19:42 Worst Date Stories and Lessons Learned

• 27:50 Importance of Personality in Attraction

• 33:07 Challenges of Finding Genuine Connections

• 35:07 Being Upfront About Relationship Goals

• 35:43 Funny Dating Story: The Wrong Sarah

• 38:40 Setting Boundaries and Honoring Yourself

• 44:44 The Scarcity Mindset in Dating Over 40

• 52:22 Manifesting the Right Partner

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships.

From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming.

🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here’s how to identify self-sabotage in action.

💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life.

🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers.

🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it’s the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want.

🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it.

We get into:

• 00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast

• 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout

• 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage

• 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships

• 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics

• 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

• 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns

• 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward

• 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences

• 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists

• 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach

• 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth

• 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships

• 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage

• 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System

• 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships

• 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help

Connect with Minh-Thu

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/higher-alignment-consulting/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555613204811

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higheralignmentconsulting/

• https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

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• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we’re kicking off a brand-new series—The Dating Circle! Host Sarah introduces us to two incredible women, Jess and Tina, as they embark on their dating journeys, sharing all the juicy details, awkward encounters, and hard-earned lessons along the way.

From navigating dating apps and ghosting to defining what they’re really looking for in a partner, this candid conversation is filled with laughs, surprises, and some hard truths about modern dating.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

1. 💘 Dating in the Digital Age: Jess and Tina open up about their experiences with Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating—why some platforms work better than others and what really goes on behind the scenes of online dating.
   
   

2. 💔 The Struggles of Modern Romance: From ghosting to awkward first dates, the ladies spill their worst dating experiences—including one that involved a surprise LARPing confession!
   
   

3. 💡 What Women Really Want: Confidence, ambition, and emotional intelligence—Jess and Tina break down the qualities that matter most when looking for a partner.
   
   

4. 🔥 Who Should Make the First Move? Should men take the lead in planning dates, or is it a mutual effort? The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, effort, and setting the tone for a relationship.
   
   

5. 📌 The Homework Assignment: Jess and Tina have two weeks to find and go on a date—who will they meet, and how will it go? Stay tuned for the next episode to find out!

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction to the Dating Circle Series

• 01:30 Meet Jess: A Journey Through Divorce and Dating

• 03:35 Meet Tina: Single Mom Navigating the Dating World

• 04:45 Dating Apps: Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating

• 07:44 The Challenges of Online Dating

• 13:45 Worst Date Stories: Tina's Experience

• 19:05 Worst Date Stories: Jess's Experience

• 26:40 The Oven Thermometer Gift

• 27:43 Debating Dating Expenses

• 28:33 Splitting the Bill on Dates

• 32:13 Worst Date Stories

• 39:17 Online Dating Realities

• 43:35 What Women Want in a Man

• 49:49 Dating Homework Assignment

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com