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Ep 630: # Finding Love Through Kink: A Revolutionary Dating App

Ever wondered if your BDSM preferences could lead you to your perfect match? Meet Pieter, the innovative CEO who turned personal setbacks into a groundbreaking dating platform that matches users based on their BDSM test compatibility scores.

This fascinating episode explores how a unique dating app is revolutionizing the way people connect by prioritizing sexual compatibility before diving into traditional dating metrics. Peter shares his journey from heartbreak to breakthrough, explaining how his platform helps users find meaningful connections through shared intimate preferences.

The conversation delves into the evolution of the BDSM test as a tool for self-discovery, the importance of open communication in alternative relationships, and how understanding one's desires can lead to more fulfilling partnerships. From creative signaling methods to navigating cultural differences, this episode offers valuable insights into modern dating dynamics.

Whether you're curious about alternative relationship styles or seeking a more authentic way to connect, this episode challenges conventional dating wisdom and offers a fresh perspective on finding love.

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00:00:02 - Connecting Through BDSM Compatibility
00:04:32 - Revolutionizing Dating App Compatibility
00:08:58 - Understanding Sexual Compatibility in Relationships
00:14:35 - Understanding the BDSM Test Categories
00:16:45 - Growth of the BDSM Test
00:21:00 - Understanding Language Barriers and Relationships
00:24:40 - Understanding Submissive Dynamics
00:29:18 - Exploring Communication in Relationships
00:35:00 - Exploring BDSM and Sexual Compatibility
00:38:25 - Understanding acronyms in BDSM and Kink
00:46:24 - Importance of Communication and Consent
00:52:45 - Understanding Consensual Non-Consent
00:57:07 - Safety Signals in BDSM Practices
01:03:08 - Upcoming Features for the App

Key Takeaways:

• The BeeDee dating app prioritizes BDSM compatibility as a foundation for meaningful relationships while also challenging traditional dating norms.
• The BDSM test has evolved into a crucial tool for self-discovery, aiding individuals in understanding their desires and preferences.
• The emphasis on clear communication, signals, and introspection can significantly enhance relationship dynamics, even for those outside the BDSM community.

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Ep 628: Storm Sex An Erotic Improv Story, Ruan spins a story off the top of her head as she records...oh the deliciousness of an unexpected unscripted night at home, forced proximity to the basement to hide out and be safe from the storm raging outside! Mike and Felicia both gather supplies to weather the storm in the basement closet, and things are bound to get spicy when she grabs her new sex toy from the charger on her way to the basement! Enjoy the spontaneous sex of this couple, the edging, the fun power play sex game of orgasm control, and of the course, the mutual satiation! A night to never forget!

Enjoy this erotic romance, a little spicy erotica story about how to take advantage of a bad situation and turn it into sexy fun times! Great erotic fiction as an erotic audio to peak your libido, stir ideas in you, and satiate your mental health and your sexual health. Making relationships fun with impromptu sex.. oh hell yes please! Delicious ultra spicy storytelling! She enjoyed it, she hopes you do too!

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Ep 627: **Breaking Down Barriers in Sexual Health Education**

Guest: Holly Eckelberger (she/her) is a public health expert, sex educator, and passionate advocate for sexual and reproductive justice. With over 15 years of experience, she’s led community education programs, developed inclusive sexual health curricula, and is a fierce community activist. Holly is also the co-founder of the Rochester Sexual and Reproductive Justice Task Force and the host of Meet Me at the Spot Podcast, where she dives into real talk about sex, pleasure, and justice. She brings a unique blend of professional insight and sex-positive enthusiasm to every conversation.

Dive into a powerful conversation with Holly, where she transforms from health teacher to community sex educator and reproductive justice advocate. From viral TikTok content to launching a groundbreaking podcast, Holly shares how authentic conversations about sexual health can create meaningful change.

The episode explores critical gaps in K-12 sex education, challenging traditional approaches and highlighting the urgent need for comprehensive, accurate information. Holly discusses how her work with the Rochester Sexual and Reproductive Justice Task Force is reshaping conversations around sexual health and education.

Key highlights:
- Journey from classroom teaching to community advocacy
- Impact of social media in sexual health education
- Importance of representation in LGBTQ+ sexual health
- Role of podcasting in breaking taboos
- Challenges of modern sex education

Ready to challenge your perspectives on sexual health education and learn how one voice can make a difference? Listen to this eye-opening episode that bridges the gap between education and authentic conversation.

Tune in now to join this crucial conversation about reshaping sexual health education for future generations.

Chapters timeline:

00:00:00 - Passion for Sexual Health Education
00:03:06 - Journey in Sexual Health Education
00:08:56 - Teaching Kids About Consent and Relationships
00:13:24 - Importance of Comprehensive Sex Education
00:15:31 - Understanding the Reality of Pornography
00:17:54 - Understanding Sexuality and Pornography
00:26:54 - Representation and Acceptance in Society
00:34:59 - The Power of Storytelling and Censorship
00:39:35 - Activism Through Joyful Existence
00:46:58 - Normalizing Body Conversations with Children
00:52:41 - Reclaiming Female Pleasure Conversations

Key takeaways: • Comprehensive sex education is often misunderstood and is crucial for empowering youth, yet it remains insufficiently implemented in many schools.
• The influence of porn is detrimental to young people's understanding of healthy relationships and sexuality, highlighting the need for better educational resources.
• Indie publishing plays a vital role in amplifying diverse voices and perspectives, contributing to more inclusive discussions about sexuality and identity.

Connect with Holly: Website: thatsexeducator.com

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Ep 625: Beach House Views Erotica Excerpt, Breeding written by podcast host and author Ruan Willow. Get my erotic suspense thriller novel on Theo Reads! Chapters 1 through 7 are now live and each week a new chapter will release. On Theo Reads you can search for EXACTLY what you want by searching by trope, kink, gender, orientation, spice level, and sub-genre.

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TROPES of Beach House Views:

*Dark Romance *Erotic *Thriller *Suspense *Stalker *Breeding

*Open Door High spice\Heterosexual couple, she’s bicurious

Beach House Views book blurb:

Juniper and Bridge find their dream house. It's on the beach! The house is eerily perfect, and the couple can't help but be drawn to its charm and the allure of its famous previous owner. The house seems to be the perfect place for them to start a new chapter in their lives and maybe make a top-notch nursery for that baby they've so desperately been trying for. During their tour, Juniper finds a mysterious object in the kitchen, a hidden key in an odd place, hinting that there may be more to this fantasy home than meets the eye. After they settle in to the house, mysteries pop up, but they dismiss them as meaningless, that is until they can't deny something odd, and devious, could be going on with the house. They continue to enjoy each other though, on their baby making breeding spree, trying out every room in their quest to create new life. When things start to go south, they find the beach views they didn't want, and the danger of the mysterious occurrences becomes villainous.

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Ep 624: Breaking down barriers to Women's Sexual Health with Dr. Jessica Yih, MD, a urologist aka drsexandsperm on social media who is an Assistant Professor at the Department of Urology, Director of Women's Sexual Health and Male Infertility at the University of California, Irvine. She shares all her insights about the clitoris, female sexuality, and the new direction medicine is taking in finally paying more attention to women's sexual organs, pleasure, anatomy, function, and illness.

Summary: Discover the Hidden Power of the Clitoris and a Revolutionary Look at Women's Sexual Health

Join Dr. Jessica Yih (aka drsexandsperm on social media), a pioneering urologist, as she unveils groundbreaking insights about female sexual health and anatomy. Did you know the clitoris contains an astounding 10,000 nerve endings and is much larger than commonly believed? This eye-opening episode challenges traditional perspectives and breaks down barriers in women's sexual health education.

Dr. Yih shares her personal journey in the male-dominated field of urology and discusses how limited medical training on women's sexual health inspired her to become an advocate for change. The conversation explores crucial topics including:

- The complex anatomy and size of the clitoris
- Breaking down shame and cultural taboos
- Understanding sexual health across different life stages
- The impact of hormonal changes on sexual wellness

- Barriers in testosterone therapy for women and the potentially harmful impacts of the oral contraceptive pill in damaging a woman's ability to have pleasure with sex

This frank and informative discussion illuminates the importance of self-discovery and understanding your body without shame. Whether you're curious about your own anatomy or seeking to enhance your sexual wellbeing, this episode offers valuable insights that could transform your perspective on female sexuality.

Ready to revolutionize your understanding of women's sexual health?

Timeline:

00:01:57 - Women's Sexual Health Awareness
00:05:21 - Understanding the Clitoris Anatomy
00:10:45 - Anatomy and Arousal
00:17:31 - Exploring Sensuality and Orgasms
00:21:16 - Understanding Sexual Health and Pleasure
00:23:22 - Impact of Aging on Sexuality
00:27:27 - Understanding Women's Hormonal Changes & Hormone Therapy Autonomy
00:35:06 - Hormone Therapy Benefits for Women
00:38:52 - Understanding Vestibule Pain and Testosterone
00:42:01 - Understanding Hormonal Vestibulodynia
00:44:46 - Impact of Oral Contraceptives on Health
00:47:35 - Testosterone Therapy and Patient Advocacy
00:52:55 - Advocating for Sexual Health Awareness
00:55:28 - Exploring Sexual Trauma Healing

Key Takeaways

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• There is a significant lack of education about female anatomy, particularly the clitoris, which contributes to societal shame surrounding female sexuality.
• Understanding one's body, including embracing self-exploration, is essential for enhancing

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Ep 622: Getting a surprise mystery fantasy in a box delivery is about the most delicious, sexy, and hot date night prep imaginable! The erotic romance hits the mark in this erotica fiction story where the couple enjoys trying out new toys, leadership/submission in restraints and orgasm control, plus a new sheer sensual outfit from a box with sexy contents. The guidance of the box, their deluge into dominance and submission role playing, and the yummy surprises have them basting in their libidos and marinating in their sexual juices! Enjoy your sexuality to the max on date night and check this out!!!!!

I've personally tried out a similar box and it was an incredible experience! It's top notch super sexy and immersive in the best most juicy ways possible! The guidance the kit provides will grow trust in relationships while giving everyone involved a fun, sexy, satisfying experience! Five stars times a million!

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Sexual health is a part of your mental health, don't ignore it! Dive in for self care, partner care, and mutual pleasure today and every day! Hey, why not get kinky? You might like it! Enjoy this erotic audio.

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Ep: 621, The Art of Intimate Connection: Beyond Physical Touch with Jake (Jakub Tyl)

Discover how synchronized breathing and emotional presence can transform intimate relationships in ways you never imagined. In this fascinating episode, professional bodyworker Jake shares his unique perspective on the intersection of touch, emotion, and healing, particularly in women's experiences.

Through his four years of specialized practice in erotic, tantric, and BDSM massage, Jake reveals how authentic intimacy transcends technical expertise. He emphasizes that true connection happens when partners are fully present and attuned to each other's emotional states.

Key highlights:
- The transformative power of therapeutic touch
- How body awareness leads to better relationship choices
- Breaking through emotional barriers from past relationships
- The importance of presence and trust in intimate connections
- Using synchronized breathing to deepen emotional bonds

Ready to revolutionize your understanding of intimacy and emotional connection? Listen to this eye-opening episode that challenges conventional wisdom about relationships and personal growth.

Tune in now to explore how deep emotional presence can transform your approach to intimacy and relationships. Find out more about Jake: https://www.dotekerota.com/hole

On Instagram @dotek.erota

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Introduction to Jake's Unique Profession
00:02:06 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Connection
00:10:21 - Connecting with Your Body and Emotions
00:24:38 - Challenges of Intimacy in Relationships
00:26:58 - Emotional Connection in Intimacy
00:52:28 - Understanding Touch and Connection
00:58:14 - Overcoming Intimacy Expectations
01:03:55 - Intimacy Beyond Technique
01:14:26 - Enjoying the Present Moment in Intimacy
01:18:02 - Understanding Sensual BDSM Dynamics
01:22:52 - Balancing Aggression and Tenderness in BDSM
01:25:27 - Building Trust in Dominance
01:32:08 - Embracing Dominance and Learning

Key Takeaways:

• The emphasis on synchronized breathing as a tool for fostering deeper intimacy is often overlooked in traditional relationship discussions.
• Jake highlights that emotional breakthroughs through intimacy can redefine women's boundaries and desires, showcasing a transformative aspect of touch.
• The podcast advocates for emotional engagement over mechanical techniques, suggesting that true connection requires presence and trust rather than just physical actions.

Sexual health is a part of mental health, don't ignore it.

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Episode 619: Age Gap Tea Bagging and Oral, Erotica Excerpt from Mallory and Derek Attend Secret Parties, written and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow,

Book blurb:

Mallory and Derek are a young mutually dedicated bisexual couple. They both love adventure and new experiences. It's what drew them to each other in the first place. They desire to explore more together, so they decide to join a swinger's alternative lifestyle club.

Once the initial overwhelm wears off, they dive in to the insatiable group fun at the private parties, and don't look back. Their world opens up and they can't get enough. They have so much fun, their minds, and their climaxes, are blown to new heights. Life can't get any better. They make new friendships, and cultivate deeper ones that enrich their lives, while they work hard at being diligently respectful of their mutual boundaries.

And all the party games, oh, that's mind-blowing and not stopping in its ever-expanding ecstasy! The couple is hooked!

When a photographer is hired for one of the private parties and takes sexy pictures of Mallory with an older man who had become one of her regular play partners, Mallory's life, and career, take a turn for the unexpected. She finds herself lucky to be a huge overnight success as a content creator when she begins to post nude pics and spicy videos online. As she finds herself further entrenched in her life with her devoted partner Derek, her new older millionaire gentleman friend wants to be a permanent person in her life, too. Mallory is lucky, she's got two very supportive partners in her life!

Who comes along for the full entrepreneurial ride she's on remains to be seen. However, one thing is for sure, she's taking this pleasure train for life. And whoever is by her side better hold tight because it's promising to be a wild trip!

Tropes: erotica, Polyamory love triangle, swinging, BDSM, D/s, multiple partner intimacy and relationships, impact play, intimate scenes, bisexuality, experimentation, and empowerment.

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