In this episode, I’m joined by Cole Harvey, a coach trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), for one of the most insightful conversations we’ve had on the show.

Cole is an alcohol-free coach and Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner who helps people shift their relationship with alcohol through curiosity, compassion, and a deeper understanding of their inner world.

We unpack the IFS approach to understanding addiction - not as a battle to be won, but as a system of protective parts trying their best to keep us safe. It’s deep, it’s compassionate, and it might just shift how you see yourself (or someone you love) forever.

We talk about exiles, firefighters, managers - and how even the part of you that drinks has good intentions.

If you’ve ever said “Why do I do this?” or felt stuck in cycles you can’t explain, this episode will help you reconnect with the part of you that’s whole, calm, and capable of real healing. A must-listen if you're exploring a more compassionate, trauma-informed path to recovery.

Here are the highlights:

Cole Harvey's Background and Introduction (2:46)

Discussion on Workplace Drinking Culture (5:34)

Explaining Internal Family Systems (IFS) (10:30)

Practical Application of IFS (23:11)

Resources and Recommendations (28:50)

Connect with Cole:

Website: coleharveycoaching.com

Instagram: @coleharveycoaching

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