Ep. 35: Stop Punishing, Start Impacting: Why Your Kids Keep Breaking Agreements (and What To Do Instead)

🚨 Tired of Repeating Yourself? You’re Not Alone.
Every parent has been there: you make an agreement with your kid, they break it, and your gut says “punish”—but what if there’s a better way? In this powerful episode, Matt and Alona dive into the rollercoaster ride of parenting through broken agreements, emotional exhaustion, and the choice to lead with connection instead of control. 💥

💬 From iPads and missed curfews to dishwashers and forgotten promises, they show us how the real power comes when we shift from punishment to impact—when your child doesn't just remember the rule, they remember the relationship.

⚡ Challenging moments you’ll want to hear more about:

• A raw and real story of how Matt’s daughter chose to lose $5 over having screen time controls—because it mattered to her.
• How a 10-minute massage became a meaningful follow-through when Matt forgot to run the dishwasher.
• The conversation Alona had when her daughter forgot her phone—one that turned a potential meltdown into a moment of internal growth.

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Nudge: Every time my kid breaks an agreement, I feel like they don’t care—and it hurts. I want to find a way that matters to both of us, without defaulting to punishment.

Nudge: I keep yelling when agreements get broken, but deep down I know it’s not working. How do I help my child remember through connection instead of fear?

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