You ever catch yourself saying things like…

“You suck.”
“You’re never gonna get this right.”
“Why even try?”

Now let me ask you this…

• Would you ever say that to your wife?
• To your kids?
• To someone you lead?

No shot. So why are you saying it to yourself?

Let’s call it what it is…

That voice in your head? It’s not keeping it real. It’s you being hostile with yourself. And it’s killing your momentum.

The worst part?

You’ve gotten so used to that self-sabotage, that you don’t even recognize it anymore. But your confidence does. Your clarity does. Your consistency definitely does.

Science confirms it.
Scripture backs it.
And your results? They’re revealing it.

That’s why this week’s 5-Minute Drill on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show is one you can’t afford to miss. I share a quick-hitting, yet simple strategy that will help you…

• Spot the language that’s killing your momentum
• Replace it with truth rooted in Scripture
• Build a habit that rewires your mind and reclaims your edge

So, if you’re done being your own worst enemy, and you’re ready to speak to yourself like the man God designed you to be — then lock into this episode.

Let’s get it!

In this episode, you will hear:

• Why your internal dialogue may be the #1 reason you're stuck, scattered, or self-sabotaging.
• The story of a Major League Baseball player’s self-talk meltdown — and the lesson I taught my sons on the spot.
• What science says about the damaging effects of negative self-talk on your brain, focus, and performance.
• How Proverbs 11:9 and the story of Gideon reveal the spiritual and practical power of your words.
• The biggest myths high-performers believe about “being hard on themselves” — and the trap it creates.
• A 4-step strategy to replace self-destructive language with truth that builds daily momentum.

Key Quotes

• “Whether you realize it or not, your words are either driving your momentum or destroying it.” - J.R.
• “Your negative self-talk doesn’t just sting you. It kills your clarity. It kills your focus. It kills your flow.” - J.R.
• “Don’t confuse beating yourself down with keeping it real.” - J.R.
• “Your words matter. Not just the ones you speak out loud — But the ones on loop in your mind.” - J.R.
• “Momentum is connected to your mouth. So speak life. Speak truth. And let that shift fuel your next win.” - J.R.

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• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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What’s your mindset when the battle chooses YOU?

Do you shrink back and start counting your losses? Or do you stand up, lock in, and fight like hell to WIN — no matter how unfair it feels?

Let’s be real…

Most guys crumble when in battles they didn’t sign up for — cancer, career setbacks, family struggles, you name it. They start seeing defeat as inevitable instead of optional.

That’s why I had to get retired Marine Corps Officer, C-Suite Executive, and battle-tested cancer warrior, Mike Ettore, on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show. Hands down, Mike’s story is a masterclass in resilience, grit, and leading a life with legacy in mind.

Mike’s faced real enemies on the battlefield…and now he’s facing one in his own body. But the way he’s handling it is beyond inspiring.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How to adopt a "World’s Greatest" mindset when facing battles you didn’t choose — and why it could save your life (and leadership).
• Mike’s powerful strategy for mastering internal vs. external friction — and how it can immediately boost your resilience and focus.
• A practical reframe to help you stop shrinking in adversity and start leading yourself and others with unshakable confidence.
• Why building a lasting legacy requires daily, intentional action — and how Mike writes and leads with his "grandchildren’s grandchildren" in mind.
• The secret to balancing leadership and management without losing clarity, impact, or mission focus.
• A life-tested reason why “as goes the leader, so goes the team” — and how your daily example multiplies across generations.

Key Quotes

• “Any single thing that you can do to stack the odds in your favor – even a slight odd increase – do it." - Mike Ettore
• "This cancer may in fact kill me, but I'll never die from it." - Mike Ettore
• "As a leader, you’re either getting better or you're stagnating." - Mike Ettore
• "As goes the leader, so goes the team — always." - Mike Ettore

Connect with Mike

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikeettore/
• Website: https://www.fidelisleadership.com/
• Podcast: https://www.fidelisleadership.com/podcast
• Books: https://www.fidelisleadership.com/books

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamesJRreid
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamesjrreid/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Episode Credits

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You ever find yourself thinking, “Is this it? Is this all there is?”

Your career's in full swing. You're providing. You’ve checked the boxes. But now…something feels off.

The pressure isn’t letting up.
The fog won’t lift.
And deep down, you’re wondering if you’re in the middle of a midlife crisis.

I’ve been there. In my 30s — successful on paper, struggling in my soul. Dad in and out of hospitals. Business stuck. Mental fog everywhere. I started asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

But then a better question changed everything…and it turns out I wasn’t in a midlife crisis. I was in a midlife transition to something greater. That’s exactly what this week’s 5-Minute Drill on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show is about. I’m busting the cultural lie that “midlife = eventual meltdown” and giving you…

• The truth that squashes midlife crisis myth
• Biblical proof that you’re not breaking down — you’re being built
• A 3-step framework to help you move from fog to focus, and from pressure to peace

So if the success you worked so hard for is starting to feel more like weight than freedom — then lock into this episode.

Let’s get it!

In this episode, you will hear:

• Why the idea of a “midlife crisis” is mostly a cultural myth — and what modern science and research actually say about it
• A powerful story from a member of The Clutch Club™ navigating grief, pressure, and purpose
• J.R.’s personal experience during a season when everything felt like it was slipping through his fingers
• How biblical figures like Moses prove that what looks like a breakdown is often just preparation for a bigger calling
• The neuroscience behind why your 40s and 50s are actually prime time for clarity, wisdom, and leadership
• A simple, but transformational 3-step framework to help you shift from survival to significance

Key Quotes

• “You’re not breaking down — you’re upgrading.” - J.R.
• “You’re not in a midlife crisis. You’re in a midlife transition.” - J.R.

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamesJRreid
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamesjrreid/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com. Let them know we sent you.