Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life.

Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You’ll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it’s better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you.

You’ll hear some of Jena’s most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it’ll work out.

You’ll hear:

• Why “perfect” opening lines actually don’t matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections

• How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or “scavenger hunt” dates, can massively boost your social confidence

• Jena’s favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present

• Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers

Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy’s next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones. Register at www.stophatingdating.com

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love.

In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language.

Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine.

Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out.

You’ll hear:

• Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating

• How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people

• Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence

• Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence

If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?”
Or maybe you’re out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click or you think there are no good men or women out there left? In Episode 397 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters” Kimmy welcomes Orna and Matthew Walters, internationally acclaimed dating coaches, co-founders of Creating Love on Purpose, and co-authors of the powerful new book “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Lasting Love.” With over two decades of experience helping thousands find real and lasting love, Orna and Matthew bring a unique blend of expertise, personal vulnerability, and actionable advice to the table.

In this episode, Kimmy, Orna, and Matthew unravel why our brains cling to the familiar—even if it hurts—and how family-of-origin experiences lay down a “love imprint” that shapes our future relationships. You’ll learn why even smart, successful singles fall into “job interview” dating or keep a long checklist to protect themselves, and why vulnerability feels so unsafe until you finally break the cycle. Orna and Matthew walk listeners through their three-step system found in their new book. They offer powerful personal stories: Orna’s courageous journey as a survivor of domestic abuse and how she learned to trust herself and love again, plus Matthew’s honest admission of once being a “toxic bachelor” and his transformation through deep self-work. Together, they share concrete, real-life examples (like the “fig fight” that helped them build healthier conflict resolution), proving lasting love is possible—no matter your past.

You’ll hear:

• Why lasting relationships require both chemistry and compatibility.

• An explanation of ‘love imprints,’ the deeply ingrained beliefs about love that shape your emotional patterns and behaviors in relationships

• Why so many high-achieving, analytical daters struggle to “let go,” flirt, and reveal their true selves.

• Step-by-step exercises you can use today to start re-wiring your love patterns and building a relationship from a place of wholeness and confidence

If you keep attracting the same patterns and want to know about your personal love blocks, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com