In this episode, we’re tackling one of the most emotionally charged challenges for blended families: navigating co-parenting dynamics and negotiating with an ex-spouse.

Whether things are civil or you’re experiencing high levels of tension, we share the three strategies that have changed everything for us and for the couples we coach — Clarity, Communication, and Consistency.

We'll share what’s worked (and what hasn’t), including stories from our co-parenting journey. You’ll hear how Kim learned to lead with respect, even when she felt disrespected, and how we helped one couple shift from chaos to calm by gaining clarity in the values and expectations of their own home.

If you’re ready to show up with more confidence, reduce co-parenting conflict, and build influence, this conversation is for you. You'll gain hope, practical tools, and encouragement.

You'll Discover:

• Why clarity in your home's values gives you confidence during tough conversations with an ex
• The unexpected power of respectful communication (even when it’s one-sided)
• How consistency in your tone and with your boundaries helps to build trust and increase your influence
• Actionable steps and communication tips to manage disagreements between you and your ex
• Why your kids’ emotional security starts with how you show up, not how your ex does

Resources from this Episode:

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Resources

Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away? Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and Love

Episode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and Mind

Episode 6. Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?

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We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you. It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We’ve lived it.

In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim’s daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child’s emotional well-being. All while preserving your connection.

Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth.

If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You’re not alone, and your story isn't over.

You'll Discover:

• How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectively
• Helpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.
• A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflict
• The importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from you

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away? Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and Love
• Article by Dr. Bob Evans: 17 Primary Alienation Strategies
• Episode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]
• Book by Amy J.L. Baker: Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant Child
• Episode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental Alienation
• Episode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]
• Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the Kids
• Episode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse
• Episode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between Homes
• Episode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids

Ready for some extra support?

We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

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