You Don't Have to Crush Your Ex

Hints, Hacks, and Hell-No's to "Win" Your Custody Evaluation

De: Lori Bonnevier

Narrado por: Vladimir Louissaint, Brey Noelle Nordtvedt

Drop the Battle.

Win the War that Matters.

Vanessa and Luke met in college. Young and ambitious, they fell in love, married, bought a house in the suburbs, and created a perfect family. He worked tirelessly to advance his career, so she could stay home with the children and manage their busy household. For fifteen years, they built a network of friends, family traditions, and an amazing life together. Everything was going great until it wasn't. Now, they are facing a very painful divorce and a custody battle over two children both parents adore.

Family members, friends, and legal professionals—everyone has an opinion about how to come out on top.

In You Don't Have to Crush Your Ex, Lori Bonnevier—a clinical social worker and seasoned child custody evaluator—invites you to walk beside Vanessa and Luke, as they face challenges similar to yours. You will have the unique opportunity to make choices about divorce, your children, and how to participate in a custody evaluation to achieve the best outcome. Through this insightful and witty choose-your-own-outcome-style story, Lori shares her more than twenty years of trade secrets to help you navigate the complex and often-thorny experience of participating in family law litigation. By the end of the book, you will know how to:

Present your best self to a child custody evaluator.

Protect your child's emotional health and well-being.

Keep your sanity and thrive on the other side.

Discern which attorneys will hurt or help your efforts.

Acquire resources to manage specific challenges.

Save your family time and money.

This book is a must-listen for parents, grandparents, and interested third parties involved in or headed toward a custody lawsuit over the children they love.

The Choices We Make, Make Us.

©2021 Lori A. Bonnevier (P)2023 Lori A. Bonnevier

A common-sense guide and reminder for parents

With well-paced and excellent narration, this book reminds us that parents going through a divorce all too often fall into the predictable and regrettable pattern of attempting to find 'justice' for the wrongs committed by the other parent against them. Unfortunately, that often means forgetting what is in the best interest of their child or children.

While every situation is going to be unique, putting the child's needs ahead of wanting to right wrongs committed against us as adults results in the very best outcomes for all concerned. It's a hard thing to keep in mind, but following the main characters through their arcs allows us to see the successes and pitfalls of a post-separation life where everyone moves on, but not everyone grows and improves.