When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable

How to Break the Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life

De: Karen Ehman, Lysa TerKeurst

Narrado por: Karen Ehman

Are you overwhelmed by others' unrealistic expectations of you? Do you feel torn in dozens of directions as you try to make everyone around you happy? If you're ready to end the cycle of approval seeking, New York Times best-selling author and recovering people pleaser Karen Ehman is here to help!

When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable shares the refreshing, heartfelt lessons that Karen learned firsthand during her own journey of breaking free from people pleasing in order to live out her God-given purpose. Let Karen be your new go-to guide as you learn to successfully break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead.

With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Karen explores why it's so easy to fall into people-pleasing behaviors and reminds us that we can't fulfill our divine purpose if we're too busy living everyone else's. She offers her timely advice for living with less overwhelm and with more peace and purpose, sharing words of wisdom that will help you:

• Prioritize what God says above what other people think
• Live your life without worrying about the opinions and expectations of others
• Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no
• Create and maintain healthy boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life
• Learn to navigate the tension between pleasing God and loving your community

Join Karen as she encourages you to walk closely - and confidently - with our loving Creator, despite the opinions and expectations of others. It's time to end the people-pleasing game and finally enjoy the peaceful and purposeful life that you deserve.

A self-assessment quiz, memory verses, and additional resources are available in the audiobook companion PDF download.

©2021 Karen Ehman (P)2021 Zondervan

Must Read

So many ahas!! Being on a boundaries journey for the past 3 1/2 years Karen helped me see more holes with action steps to continue on my growth!!! thank you ❤

Life Changing

One of the most profound books I’ve experienced in my life. And it came to me when I needed it most. Thank you, Karen.

Life changing

This book is life changing. My sin was called out, but I know I’m forgiven. I have life changes to make, priorities to revisit, and confessions to share. I will now consider myself a recovering people pleaser.

Glad I’m not the only one

So glad to confirm that I’m not the only one going through this. This helps me have a plan for my personal development and that’s really what I needed the most.

Warning: Extremely Christian!

The book had some really good things to say and she did add some research in there, but it is heavily Christian with a lot of scripture and the general point being to put God first in your life. I did not realize this book was even going to be a Christian one, but the narrator did a good job and she did have a lot of interesting personal stories and things to say. That being said, if I had known how much of it would be sermons, I would’ve passed on it.

Putting it all in perspective

A great listen. Nice isn’t in the Bible, what? I’m humbled to have found this book, Now, putting the wisdom into practice.

Read Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend instead

This book description says "break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead. " She did not effectively cover the second part at all. And the first part was a beginner's guide to setting boundaries - which she didnt get to saying it until Chaper 9. (Then she talked about not burying the lead in Chapter 10-- LOL.) The way she rambled about how to manage your annoying friends in the first half was filled with "me first" selfishness that did not align with the life God is calling us to lead.

Be thoughtfully in control of your time & decisions without guilt.

If you often feel pulled in different directions, feeling pressured to ALWAYS say, “YES”, allowing guilt to drive your decisions because you don’t wanna “disappoint “, This book is a must read(more than once) …Find excellent advice & biblical support to recovering from, the People Pleasing lifestyle. It’s filled with relatable situations, humor, and excellent guidance to make necessary changes within ourselves.

Very Elementary

This book is so basic and nothing new. Could have been summed up in one sentence: When someone asks you to do something and you are too busy or overwhelmed, say no. The end.

Just ok

I wanted to love this but it felt like other author’s book/ideas were re-written in her own words and she just added her life stories or examples. There were a lot of times I thought, “I should have just bought that persons (woman she references a lot) book instead.”