The Tender Bar

A Memoir

De: J.R. Moehringer

Narrado por: J.R. Moehringer

J.R. Moehringer grew up captivated by a voice. It was the voice of his father, a New York City disc jockey who vanished before J.R. spoke his first word. Sitting on the stoop, pressing an ear to the radio, J.R. would strain to hear in that plumy baritone the secrets of masculinity and identity. Though J.R.'s mother was his world, his rock, he craved something more, something faintly and hauntingly audible only in The Voice.

At eight years old, suddenly unable to find The Voice on the radio, J.R. turned in desperation to the bar on the corner, where he found a rousing chorus of new voices. Cops, bookies, soldiers, and stumblebums, all sorts of men gathered in the bar to tell their stories and forget their cares. The alphas along the bar, including J.R.'s uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike and Joey D, a soft-hearted brawler, took J.R. to the beach, to ballgames, and ultimately into their circle. They taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood-by-committee.

Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.

In the grand tradition of landmark memoirs, The Tender Bar is suspenseful, wrenching, and achingly funny. A classic American story of self-invention and escape, of the fierce love between a single mother and an only son, it's also a moving portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and an unforgettable depiction of how men remain, at heart, lost boys.

©2005 J.R. Moehringer (P)2005 Hyperion

Reseñas de la Crítica

• 2005 Audie Award Winner, Narration by the Author
• 2005 Audie Award Nominee, Biography/Memoir

"Funny, honest, and insightful." (Booklist)
"[Moehringer's] the best memoirist of his kind since Mary Karr wrote The Liars' Club." (The New York Times)
"In his gimlet-eyed memoir, The Tender Bar, J.R. Moehringer lovingly and affectingly toasts a boyhood spent on a barstool." (Vanity Fair)
"The Tender Bar will make you thirsty for that life: its camaraderie, its hilarity, its seductive, dangerous wisdom." (Richard Russo)

beautifully crafted.

JR has clearly finally "gotten in". This is a beautiful piece that manages to show-case his tremendous skill at crafting a story (albeit true) while sounding like he is just speaking with you (probably helps that he is reading it). In league with "the kite runner", this memoir reaches out and touches your heart without leaving the feeling that you have been forced into an experience like a puppet! I was truly impressed by the author's ability to present very complex characters without conveying any animosity. I truly enjoyed this book!

Amazing Story

I grew up in a bar JUST like this in Detroit !
JR brought back a FLOOD of amazing memories !
Thanks for sharing your experiences !

Heart warming, funny, sad and beautiful

There are few things that are close to your heart which can be eloquently expressed in word or print. This book has done both - expressed such things, spoken them and written them, truthfully, from the heart. Well done JR.

Excellent voice!

Is there anything you would change about this book?

It's a memoir so nothing to change.

Would you recommend The Tender Bar to your friends? Why or why not?

Not really. It's not a very unique nor exciting story.

Loved it.

Would you listen to The Tender Bar again? Why?

Yes - I love JR Moehringer's writing. Didn't realize before I listened to this book that he co-wrote Andre Agassi's memoir, which I also enjoyed so much.

What other book might you compare The Tender Bar to and why?

I just love memoirs - they comprise 90% of the books I read and listen to. This book is among my favorites. I listened to Patti Smith's "Just Kids" just previous to this one and I thought they were both so fantastic.

Have you listened to any of J.R. Moehringer’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No - but he's great. I often look for books that are read by the author - makes such a difference.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

OMG - I laughed and cried. I just loved the descriptions of the men at the bar and the loving portrayal of Moehringer's relationship to his mom. Very very touching, so thoughtful and sometimes hilariously funny.

Any additional comments?

I give this one my highest recommendation.

Beautiful

Moehringer (I hope I spell his name correctly !) ‘has a way with words’. A touching, heartbreaking and beautiful memoir, the way life is.

Vulnerable, rowdy, loving and charming all in one.

Very insightful and interesting story of a young boy growing up without a father. I really enjoyed his style of writing and all of the bar stories.

One of my favorite all time reads!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Absolutely

Who was your favorite character and why?

JR of course

What about J.R. Moehringer’s performance did you like?

He offers a very authentic performance as he tells his own story.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

This is a beautiful memoir filled with a cast of rich and interesting real life characters. I laughed and cried many times throughout the story. Even though I initially read it when it was first released, I enjoyed it every bit as much, listening to it on audio.

This memoir is filled with head and heart

What made the experience of listening to The Tender Bar the most enjoyable?

Hearing the author of a book narrate his own memoir, I think, always adds to the experience. Who does a better job of telling your story than, you? Moehringer is a writer by trade but he could also have a career as a reader of audiobooks if he so chose. His natural voice talent -he got it honest from his father- lends an empathy to the story that an outside narrator may not be able to provide. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to him.

What other book might you compare The Tender Bar to and why?

Hillbilly Elegy, Bruce Springsteen's Born To Run; For whatever unknown reason, I'm drawn to books and characters in which the protagonist has had a strained or unhappy relationship with males in his life and has a mother who has had to overcome the men in her life more than she has had the men be partners. The above books feature both as does The Tender Bar. Moehringer's is one of those stories. I can relate to so many anecdotes in so many books that it feels like I could share a beer with any of the authors that have written on the subject. Dickens/Publicans/Edisons would be a great place to have one of these conversations. What a gathering that would be.

What about J.R. Moehringer’s performance did you like?

He has a naturally smooth and flowing delivery to go along with the richness of his voice. Moehringer is a natural.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

There are many. When he talks about Sidney, you can hear in his voice and that maybe he still misses her. If not her, then maybe he misses like most of us that feeling of euphoria on a first date or a first kiss. Whether he misses Sidney now at 53 or doesn't, hearing the hurt in his voice makes the reader remember how badly those moments hurt when you're young and without the years of hindsight that help you get through these events later in life. Whether he's describing Sidney's looks or her charm, he describes her beautifully. Out of these moments, maybe the most memorable moment for me is when he talks about working in the cafe and that maybe right at that moment he's the happiest he'll ever be in life. Right after that realization, Sidney hits the window with a snowball and he realizes that she's just made him even happier. That's just a poignant moment that he talks about but also memorable that he had the foresight to note to himself that that's as happy as he's ever been or may ever be. That thought has stuck with me since reading the book. Not as an afterthought, but the way Moehringer describes that bar makes me miss some of the bars I'd patronize in my youth. The old wood, smell of cigarette smoke and beer, those feel like home to me and make me smile to this day. Moehringer describes those sights and smells here the way I wish I could describe to my friends when I talk about missing the smoky haze in today's nonsmoking establishments.

Any additional comments?

I'd highly recommend this book to anyone who has some of the thoughts about moms and men that I mention above. I first noticed the book years ago due to the striking cover art on the shelf in a bookstore. I didn't buy it but have often thought of it and searched for it here and I'm glad that I did. This is also going to be a good read for someone who misses home, relationships of youth and folks who just like a good memoir. There's something here for everyone.

Extremelt well written

Would you consider the audio edition of The Tender Bar to be better than the print version?

Yes

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Tender Bar?

When he spend the night at Sydney's house - you realize he's in for a complicated journey

Have you listened to any of J.R. Moehringer’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No, I have not.

Any additional comments?

Excellent read, great format.