Survival of the Friendliest

Understanding Our Origins and Rediscovering Our Common Humanity

De: Brian Hare, Vanessa Woods

Narrado por: René Ruiz

A powerful new theory of human nature suggests that our secret to success as a species is our unique friendliness.

“Brilliant, eye-opening, and absolutely inspiring - and a riveting read. Hare and Woods have written the perfect book for our time.” (Cass R. Sunstein, author of How Change Happens and co-author of Nudge)

For most of the approximately 300,000 years that Homo sapiens have existed, we have shared the planet with at least four other types of humans. All of these were smart, strong, and inventive. But around 50,000 years ago, Homo sapiens made a cognitive leap that gave us an edge over other species. What happened?

Since Charles Darwin wrote about “evolutionary fitness”, the idea of fitness has been confused with physical strength, tactical brilliance, and aggression. In fact, what made us evolutionarily fit was a remarkable kind of friendliness, a virtuosic ability to coordinate and communicate with others that allowed us to achieve all the cultural and technical marvels in human history. Advancing what they call the “self-domestication theory”, Brian Hare, professor in the department of evolutionary anthropology and the Center for Cognitive Neuroscience at Duke University and his wife, Vanessa Woods, a research scientist and award-winning journalist, shed light on the mysterious leap in human cognition that allowed Homo sapiens to thrive.

But this gift for friendliness came at a cost. Just as a mother bear is most dangerous around her cubs, we are at our most dangerous when someone we love is threatened by an “outsider.” The threatening outsider is demoted to sub-human, fair game for our worst instincts. Hare’s groundbreaking research, developed in close coordination with Richard Wrangham and Michael Tomasello, giants in the field of cognitive evolution, reveals that the same traits that make us the most tolerant species on the planet also make us the cruelest.

Survival of the Friendliest offers us a new way to look at our cultural as well as cognitive evolution and sends a clear message: In order to survive and even to flourish, we need to expand our definition of who belongs.

©2020 Brian Hare and Vanessa Woods (P)2020 Random House Audio

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“Please read this beautiful, riveting, and uplifting book. You will learn the astonishing story of how and why humans evolved a deep impulse to help total strangers but also sometimes act with unspeakable cruelty. Just as important, you’ll learn how these insights can help all of us become more compassionate and more cooperative.” (Daniel E. Lieberman, author The Story of the Human Body: Evolution, Health, and Disease, and Exercised: Why Something We Never Evolved to Do Is Healthy and Rewarding)

“Survival of the Friendliest is a fascinating counterpoint to the popular [mis]conception of Darwin’s ‘survival of the fittest.’ Brian Hare and Vanessa Woods offer a convincing case that it was not brute strength, raw intelligence, or ruthlessness that allowed modern humans to thrive while our hominin relatives died out. Instead, they argue that friendliness was the key to our flourishing - and that the same kind of cooperative communication is the key to freeing us from the tribalism currently threatening democratic governance around the world. Powerful, insightful, accessible - this book gives me hope.” (Megan Phelps-Roper, author of Unfollow)

“Very few books even attempt to do what this book succeeds in doing. It begins in basic behavioral science, proceeds to an analysis of cooperation (or lack thereof) in contemporary society, and ends with implications for public policy. Everyone should read this book.” (Michael Tomasello, author of Origins of Human Communication, professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University)

Love it

Amazing book!!! I loved it so much! And strongly recommend to everyone on planet earth and I wish we studied this in school ❤️

extremely important

This book covered so many profound ideas. makes me appreciate my friends and kindness. recommend!

A Beautiful Darwin Update

Excellent info, tying so much science, psychology, sociology and animal behavior together. A fascinating , logical and simple read. I’ve already listened twice and am recommending it widely.

Fascinating. This book has inspired me to consider getting a masters in social science.

Really interesting information and opened my eyes to many questions about our humanity. Thank you

I was riveted

This provided hopefulness at a time it is desperately needed!! We have so much to learn and more to gain by being friendly.

Very interesting way of approaching things.

Finally a strong argument against the survival 9f the fittest among humans. Highly reccomend it.

Relevant and Understandable

This explanation of social psychology was so wary to understand and very pertinent for understanding the US political environment!

An Important Message

We all hang together or we all get hanged seperately as explained over a variety of scientific literature and the personal experiences of the authors with Bonobo monkeys which are worth the read by themselves.

It was an eye-opener into Humanity

I was amazed at the studies and information that came from this audio. Let's all try to be friendlier!

Opened my eyes about the light side and the dark side of people

This is an insightful description of the psychology and neurophysiology of human beings. Helps you understand the political landscape we currently inhabit and how best to understand and navigate it. Highly recommended.