How to Spot a Passive Aggressive Partner

De: Neil Warner

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Are you now suffering the silent treatment? Hoping that you can help your husband be more open and vulnerable with you? Asking him to change? You are losing your time! The real tragedy would be that you could spend years trying to understand what is the problem that makes you feel so unhappy and lonely in your marriage. Up to the day when you discover this problem has a name: it is passive-aggressive behavior! But, you discover what is the condition just when you are on the brink of the relationship's breakup. Would you like to know this fact earlier? So you can know what you have to do to rescue your sanity? It is tragic that women spend too many years trying to understand the situation they are in, and when they can say: “I know that my husband is passive-aggressive,” it is too late to recover lost life opportunities and a small sense of self-esteem and peace of mind. Your mind needs to make decisions while it is simultaneously receiving contradictory messages. He’ll describe his behavior as good-intentioned, willing to help and support you, while at the same time he abandons all commitments at the first opportunity. Later he will give you a nice excuse and twist your brain another turn of the screw… You can cut to the chase knowing the many ways in which passive aggression can manifest: learned helplessness, procrastination, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible. We bring in this book the views of the person living with a passive-aggressive person, who is trying to make sense of one of the most contradictory situations you can find: in the heart of a relationship predicated as getting near, very intimately related to another person, the passive-aggressive person unleashes his hidden impulse to sabotage intimacy and take distance from any relationship which could be threatening to bond him with another human being. Is this a tragic exercise in contradiction? Of course, at the same time, he says that he is in love, he is actively discouraging his proclaimed “loved object” from getting too near. He wears his passive-aggressive defensive shield. How to deal with a passive-aggressive husband is quite an art. It can drive someone who has no idea of it and expects a straightforward behavior crazy. It takes several years to get to know the sneaky ways in which this behavior manipulates a spouse into believing that if only she puts more attention, more love or more patience, things will change. Now we know that only the passive-aggressive person himself can change this situation, by owning his past wounds produced in some domestic trauma that in his past shaped who he is now. Living with a person who relates in this way can induce pain, confusion, and loneliness. Regardless of that, you might be very well looking at his positive aspects and trying to make a good effort to develop a stable and long term relationship. It will be helpful to read this short book to learn how to manage your own life and stop passive aggression sabotaging your peace of mind and sanity!